What is your viewpoint on the whole "House Husband" thing?

I don't know about you, but there's just something wrong with a man not having a job and paying for his own way in life...it seems to go against the very primordial essence of our human nature since the days of the neanderthals (you know, the whole hunters %26amp; gatherers thing)... my man needs a J-O-B...I don't care what it is...





Ladies, would you go for the idea of a house husband?





Gentlemen, would you stay at home and do the duties?|||Im not ok with the whole house husband thing, but at the same time, Im not too hip on the house wife thing either. I think that everyone in the family, who is an adult should have a job. If they have a slew of children and it is best for her to be at home, she can still make some type of funds. Mary K, Avon, Ebay even. I say this, because I feel that no one, accept children and the elderly should depend on other people for money. I am a working woman and a house wife. I would love not to work, Oh God would I, but I am, because if anything ever happens, I need to be gainfully employed, be that, he gets laid off, or say he up and leaves, then were does that leave the house wife? Ummhmm..but a man being at home, shifts the power base. Unless that man is ready to be treated like a child, most of the time or like the "woman" he bets to get a job. If a woman is doing everything, she tends to start to feel some type of way. The respect gets thrown off and now you have a man struggling to prove he is a man and a woman, who may be aware or not, that she is treating him like a child. To make it short - bad idea.|||This is really common with women.





Many women feel the need to be protected and provided for by the man. It is purely an emotional, not intellectual thing, and is primordial, as you say.





It's not that men and women shouldn't feel free to live how they choose, its just that for many (not all) women, there is SEXY and NOT SEXY, and a house husband is NOT SEXY to most women.





Deal breaker? Depends on whether you can continue to see him as being sexy and desirable or not while he is taking care of the home and you are taking care of business.|||I don't really have a big problem with it as long as the house work is getting done. I'd support my family and have role reversal. I'm 21 though so my generation is really getting away from the whole husbands support thing which is okay with me as long as he's not lazing around not doing anything. I'd have a problem with it if he didn't take care of the house just like any woman would so I'd have to do double duties. I'd rather be the stay at home mom but it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me.|||With the new times, you see that women as well as men are both having careers. In the past, it was normal for a man to go to work, while a woman stood home and did those "womanly" duties to maintain the household. Honestly, I know myself and I would probably become bored and gain 50 lbs if I stood at home and did those things. I would honestly say, I would stay home and do the duties IF, and I say IF I had a woman who can provide what I do on a daily basis.


Sounds like your man needs to go find a job. If he is laying up at the house and not contributing, that is a different subject. I know myself, if that was my role, then I would justify me staying at home by doing those things at home but, since you did state your man needs a JOB, then maybe he is not pulling his weight at home.|||Um... well, if my husband didn't have a job it would have to be for a very good reason!





If he just didn't want to work, and I had to support both of us then absolutely not! We are both adults, we both work and contribute to the house.





Based on what you wrote about gathers %26amp; hunters... I don't necessarily agree with that either, I'm a self sufficient woman and I don't need a man to hunt or gather for me... so I am not living based on your neanderthal mentality either.





I'm a grown woman, I pay my own bills, I support myself and have since I was 18 years old. So I don't fit into the "woman stay home, man go hunt" idea you have either.|||You're right in the sense that it's predominantly the women in the relationship that has a problem with this, even when she says she doesn't the resentment builds up anyway.|||I wouldn't be comfortable with it. I also wouldn't be comfortable without my own income. I hate having to depend on someone else like a child.|||It's just as much BS as the whole "house wife" thing.





Fancy terms for unemployed.|||I agree with you, the man should always be the provider.


No, I would never stay at home.|||I thought I could be the "house husband" and be completely content and happy doing so. The problem with my situation is that when I did, she became the breadwinner, hoarded the money, and honestly became the same ***, that alot of men do when they are the bread winners.. Guess what, she lost her high paying job, and now I cannot get back into the workforce, due to the longevity out of it.. I say STAY in the job, and a man needs to make money that is his, and can be his, as you say! I wish I had never thought the easy way was to be the house husband, because now we are both verging on being homeless!