My husband is a tornado thru my house..and I am a neat freak, I can't keep up with his trail of disaster and I can't get him to help clean it up either. I have to have a clean house,, no ands if's or butts or I go insane...How do I cope or deal with him? Hiring a maid isn't an option !!|||Can't you corral him in just one part of the house?! :) Maybe put up some gates and hay bails!!|||Get rid of as much stuff as possible. Less in the house will make you happier. Not everyone is a neat freak. I have a friend that wipes down his sink as soon as he uses it. He can not see the spots in it or he will go nuts. We can leave a pot soaking in the sink for a few days and feel just fine about it. You have to find a happy medium. Your spouse is just fine watching you got nuts because the mess doesn't bother him. You may have control issues or something. If leaving a glass on the table without a coaster can send you into a panic then you may need to evaluate things. There are bigger, more important things to panic about. |||Join the club honey. My boyfriend is untidy as well, not as bad as yours but it becomes annoying, I know.
I am sure you have spoken to your husband about his untidyness and nothing has changed. The truth is - it probably wont change, maybe a little. You just have to deal with it.
Or maybe you could send him an invoice for all the housework you do. Lol. Seriously I know of a woman that charged her husband a certain amount for every shirt she ironed for him.
Good luck. I just have to clean up behind my boyfriend everyday. It is annoying. |||When you're husband's a pig sty maker, aka, a pig, you need to lock that little piggy up in his pig pen! Tell him to help clean or you'll make bacon out of him!
Seriously, though, how about giving him his own room? Compromise with him. Give him a sports or a game room or something like that where he can just veg out and be messy. Sometimes guys just like to hang out and be messy. And you can just close the door and not look at it. But the catch is... in exchange he has to help you keep the place clean everywhere else! That seems like a good idea. Hope that helps.|||My husband is the same way. I am a stay at home mom and so I do 99% of the cleaning in our house. I don't mind it one bit, but I did lay down some ground rules and stuck with them and it has helped. For one, I don't do any laundry that is not in the hamper. The first time he ran out of socks, he started picking his laundry up. If he leaves laundry in the middle of the room, I do not nag him. I just leave them there and he will pick them up. Also, I put a basket on the shelf near the door. That way he has some place to throw his stuff when he walks in the door. And, he doesn't have to seach the house trying to find his keys because he puts them in the basket.
The rest of the mess I just clean. He has worked hard all day and so I figure he is allowed to forget his soda can on the coffee table when he goes to bed. I love the fact that I am able to stay home and raise our children and thank God that he works hard for his family. I chose to pick my battles, and this is one that can never be one. It is just his personality and I do my best to deal with it - the same way he does his best dealing with my constant need to reorganize the rooms in the house!|||the less clutter/things you have the less messy your house will seem. keep it as simple and as less cluttered as you can. make sure he knows that he better put things back after hes doen using them. your not a mais. and dont need one. im just like you a clean freak and my husbnad is just like yours a pig. LoL.... so i exchange chorus with him every once in a while so that i wont be the only one cleaning after him and our daughter. i work as much as him and do as much as him so theres no if's or butts for us. he lives there and i do as well so we both pt things back so there wont be a mess or we'll just have to clean the house daily.|||Not much you can do... he doesn't see it as a problem. You do. So, either put up with it, hire some help or get out.
I hired a friend of mine to come in twice a week. When my husband saw that I was paying her for the help, he started to pitch in quite a bit more than he was. So far, I have her on "hold" just in case I need the help again... but so far, not bad.|||Funny, I am in your situation. My husband and kids mess up the house like nobodies business, and I being a neat freak am always cleaning. I can not stand a messy house, I have tried everything. I make them sit outside when I am cleaning so that they don't mess it up right away. |||I'm sooo there with you. It only makes our work load so much more. I don't have an answer for you, but I would love to see the answers. Good Luck.|||lock him in the basement with a mini fridge and a tv and let him do whatever he wants down there while you keep the rest of the house clean|||Have an extra closet? You could shove his mess in a closet and close the door.. It could be his closet and he can deal with it.. or not but at least the mess is "away".|||There's a guy you can call to take care of your "problem". |||When you marry a pig, you have to live in a pig sty. |||It will stop, only when you stop allowing it. Simple. |||start throwing things out.... even his fave baseball card collection and such... not only that.... i had to burned his cards or paper right in front him... i think at that point... he ll get the point|||well get rid of the pig lol |||I agree with the closet idea. shove it all somehwere and let him sort though his own mess
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