If, for some reason, you were offered a job tomorrow which would mean it would make far more sense financially for you to work and for your husband to stay home and take care of the house and children, do you think he could cope doing everything you do? Do you think he would be surprised by how much you do?|||if my bloke was the stop at home husband/bloke he says he would love it. Personally i know the washing would be all one colour... the pots would be piled up... the hoover would get used once and he would brake it... he wouldnt see the point in cleaning the toilet, the bath or the windows, and his mates would be sat round all day talking rubbish and when i got home, i would have to sort it all out!|||You have to do what's in the family's best intrest at all times. If she makes a great or pretty good income and it makes sense financially then sure go for it. Heck that's what I do.
As a stay at home dad, me and my son have grown closer over the seven months or more that I've been home with him. He's one now and hitting so many milestones and I get to be there for every one of them.
Being a stay at home dad was one of the best choices I've made, besides going back to school and learning a trade. It's a tough job. It's a thankless job. You're exhausted all the time, but it pays off to see that smile on his face when he's happy and taken care of.
If a man can't hack it being at home and taking care of his own flesh and blood and keeping the house clean and in order for when his wife gets home, then he is a true a^%26amp;%26amp;#%26amp;(#*%26amp; ... Hey I do it everyday. 24/7. When my wife comes home, she has dinner, a happy healthy child, a clean house, and a husband that's ready for her too. :)|||My partner and I are very lucky. We live in Canada and his boss offered him to tak 4 months off when baby was born. I am a full-time student at the master degree. I only have on class per week but I need to do lots of research and work at home, so my partner has come in pretty handy, doing the chores and taking care of our baby while I do my homeworks. Plus it gave us a lot of time to bond as a family. Even though he does not have that motherly instinct, he's done a pretty good job at taking care of our daughter and yes, I'm sure he'd be a great stay-at-home-dad (which might happen with our future children as I am gonna have a better income then the one he has)
I'm very lucky --he apreciates everything I do, telling me repeatedly how great a cook, a girlfriend and a mom I am...
I must admit he's no good in the kitchen though :P|||I really think my husband would do fantastic! He is a great father and an amazing help.
However...I don't think he would do so great at the "little" things that keep a home running (bills, groceries, etc). He would do good with keeping the house picked up and the kids happy. He would have to learn that the kids need more educational activities then wrestling, that the sheets do get changed by me and not on their own, etc.
That being said, I don't think either of us would be long term happy - we both enjoy our family dynamic. Sometimes money isn't everything!|||Well luckily for me and unluckily for him, my husband has had to do this a lot when I've been in hospital for several major surgeries, and for some months afterwards.
I have to say he's amazing - partly I suspect because he lived on his own and had to do all his own housework and cooking before we met - but he's also a really great Dad too.
He doesn't really like doing all the school stuff (homework, library books, letters, cheque writing etc ) but he'd do it if he had to.|||We actually discussed this last night
My husband took this week off as holidays so it was great for me to be able to pop into town without the children and get everything done etc
When I would come home he would be tearing his hair out, the baby needed fed, someones bum needed cleaning, the phone was ringing lunches had to be made, the children were fighting, our son needed picked up from school etc and i simply replied..............welcome to my world!!
He has a whole different outlook on what my day now involves and loves his job more than what he thought
He would love to stay at home but with me home too as he gets jealoous of the time I get with the children but someone has to pay the bills and he has a good job so it makes sense for him to go out to work|||He'd do well. He helps me out a lot daily. With his job he is home during the day quite a bit, and gets 16-24 hrs off inbetween shifts.
For example today he got off at 5:15am, son woke up at 5:30am. He sat up with me and got him back to sleep, and then got breakfast for our daughter when she woke up at 6:30am. Then he went to bed, and is still sleeping now. Kids are down for a morning nap, so I figured I'd scope out whats goin on here, and upload our Thanksgiving pics. I'm 36 weeks pregnant today, and been having off and on contractions, really sore, and just trying to make it 17 more days till the induction. So he's a life saver, he would be more than able to handle it. I do think he'd be a bit surprised at what goes into the whole day to day thing when it's just 1 person home though. Right now it's about 2 days a week that I'm 100% on my own morning to night. Other than that, he's got a pretty clear idea on what goes on, and how important it is to have both of us involved to keep things running smoothly. When I'm not pregnant (heavily pregnant anyways), I do a lot more. Right now were just scared I'm going to wind up going into labor early, so I've been trying to watch the lifting, and "work" around the house. Tryna keep it light duty these next 2 weeks. He may annoy me sometimes, but he's a good man. I couldn't have made a better choice in husband and father, he is irreplacable in that aspect.
Hope you had a good Thanksgiving!!!!|||He would love the idea at first! He wouldn't be too proud be a stay at home Dad but would soon run out of ideas to entertain our little one! He wouldn't want to do all of the housework either, especially the ironing. He'd cook and wash up but that would be about it!!!
Besides, I'd miss being the one to take our little one to playgroup, the park, etc. I love those things! So I think I'll stay put for now!!|||My husband was home with the kids during the day when I was at work, from right after my maternity leave ended until they started first grade. He worked 3rd shift. I worked first. He was SAHD while I was at work during the day, then went to sleep when I got home %26amp; took over.
It is one of the best things we did for the kids and for our relationship, I think. It made parenting into one more of the things that we are doing together on our shared journey, instead of letting it separate us, as some parents do. And, it let the kids create strong bonds with both of us, giving them two different parenting perspectives and styles to build their childhoods and lives on.
Being a good parent is about so much more than what reproductive organs you have. What's really key is a desire to do your best, a sense of humor, a desire to raise good people and a rough idea of how you're going to get there, flexibility and love. Men are just as capable of that as women.
All the rest - the details, working out the schedules, figuring out how to do things, can be learned by anyone who wants to learn them. |||No my husband say he couldn't do it lucky i can. He's the one with the brains and i could never get into the 40% tax bracket like he does so lucky it works out ok.He wouldn't be surprised he say every day how much i do and how much he appreciates it and he would never copes then i get a back rub. I am spoilt by him x|||My hubby has done that. When my first was little he got really sick so he stayed home with the little one and I went to work.
He did pretty well. Not perfect by any stretch but pretty well. He could never seem to get enough time to do any dishes LOL but he did manage to cook and keep the house somewhat clean. Best thing was that my son was happy.
After we switched back it was great because he knew how hard it was and I've never heard the words "Did you get anything done today". :) |||HELL NO! My fiance would NEVR cut it as a stay at home parent. He always comes home from work and compains about how he has to deal with people every day and I tell him i would give anything to be out with people and not have to listen to whiney baby. He also has no idea how much cleaning and stuff goes on and on top of that I am in college so he has no idea how much of my "free time" (he calls it) is takin up by other things...somedays i wish i could just give me a taste of it for a couple days!|||Nope. He's pretty good with housework - and I think he is great for working full time nights and still getting up to cook dinner and spend time with us - but he has never been that good at 'the baby stuff' and even now I wonder, when I'm at part-time work, if he is remembering to give our daughter lunch or dressing her warmly enough etc. He doesn't seem as capable of multi-tasking or thinking ahead.
But I don't mind. I could never work full time and give up that time with my daughter! Its bad enough thinking about sending her to pre-school next year, even though I know she'll love it, because I don't want to lose those extra hours without her! |||He would definitely realise what i do, and how much i struggle sometimes with our son.
I don't think i could do it though, i am already worrying about when i do have to go back to work, my son will be almost a year old then. I love him to bits and never want to be a way from him.
But then i would have to be realistic if it meant we would be financially secure then i would really have to think long and hard over it.
x|||noooo! I can't even take a bath without him running into the bathroom because the baby is crying. He knows that watching our son is hard work, he gives me credit for that. On top of that, hes awfully clumsy. Hes bumped baby boy's head a time or two. Now everytime I hand him the baby I find myself saying "watch his head. don't do that. be careful. don't elbow him." |||Me and my ex did that - he was totally hopeless. My other half however has the boys on his own every tuesday for me and he does fantastically. He could definitely do it.
My ex was so terrible he would give our 12 month old son a bottle of milk for "breakfast" because he was too lazy to feed him some weetabix.|||ha ha ha ha could he hell!
he would totally crack up he wouldnt know wether he was coming or going.
he good with our daughter but wen im there incase anything goes wrong.
he would say he'd be fine n as he'd say "not a bother" but i know everything would be a bother lol
best of luck xx|||My husband would do a lovely job. He's an extremely devoted, patient father. Of course, breast feeding might be a bit of a challenge for him. =) Other than that, he'd make an excellent SAHD. |||Erm....I woul do it if it were a great job but I wouldn't really trust him..he's liable to take the kids out without brushing their hair and also to be a bit lax about safety...|||I think he would be absolutely marvelous! We do things very differently, but his methods are just as effective as mine.
All the best.|||Mine would be fine but he would hate it. Hes old school thinks he has to be the main bread winner|||yes he would just fine mine would atleast
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